Stepparents should prepare for a difficult period if their stepchildren do not get along in a blended family. Under any situation, parents may find common sibling rivalry to be stressful, but nothing compares to the drama of half-sibling or step-sibling rivalry!
Combining families with children, particularly before they have had much time to get to know one another, can cause tension to reach almost unbearable heights and have an impact on the entire blended family. Stepsibling arguments can result in intense and complex emotions that affect not only the kids but the whole family.
Sometimes, arguing can turn into full-fledged altercations that almost cause bodily or psychological harm. Some people would prefer speaking with individuals who have experienced similar challenges with their stepfamily; you might find that this helps.
OP’s mom got married to her stepdad, Liam, and has been since she was 8. OP’s dad died when she was 6, and her stepsister’s mom died when she was little, too.
OP and her stepsister, Sarah, are not close. In fact, they do not have a relationship despite living in the same house for several years. Also, they do not consider each other family or sisters.
They’re grown now, and Sarah got pregnant. Liam told his daughter that she would need to invite the OP to her baby shower, but she wasn’t willing to go.
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OP writes
Despite living in the same house for several years, they do not consider each other family
OP’s stepsister said they could be babysitters if they wanted
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:
I told my mom and her husband that I would not be attending my stepsister’s baby shower. They really want me there and to be interested in building a relationship with her baby. And I might be the a-hole because I love my mom so much and this is upsetting her a lot. Plus I know the kid is innocent and I am saying I don’t want anything to do with them.
And the comments from other Redditors roll in…
They both have the same view of each other
They shouldn’t make this about what they want
All of them are not her child care
They shouldn’t try to force their two together
OP’s mom and step dad are being delusional
There isn’t a happy little home as they thought
The OP is not the AH in any way
Many Redditors were of the opinion that there’s no point in going to the baby shower because, as the stepsister has stated, the OP’s are not treated like family. In fact, she and her mom are treated more like friends so the OP owes nothing to her, the child, her mother, or her stepfather.
The OP was declared not the AH and you can get the verdict of your loved ones by sharing this article with them.
