Professionalism and entitlement are not a good combination. An employee learned this the hard way after taking all the leftovers home after a small department party.
The OP had a lot to celebrate. She just marked her third year at their company, she got promoted, and it was the anniversary of her engagement.
She expected a simple celebration and, maybe, a gift from her co-workers to celebrate her achievements. She got hurt when she received nothing but praise for her milestones.
She vented to her significant other about how overlooked she felt by her colleagues. He took it upon himself to reach out to one of OP’s colleagues to inform her of OP’s disappointment.
OP’s colleague went to their manager. They planned a small party in the breakroom with some snacks, home-baked goods, and a few banners.
At the end of the day, OP decided to bring all of the leftovers home with her in the containers they came in. The same colleague who initiated the party planning messaged OP.
She asked if OP brought the sweets and the plates home with her. OP confirmed that she did, which upset her co-worker.
She informed OP that the sweets were meant for their colleagues who weren’t at the party. She made it clear that the desserts she baked weren’t all for OP.
She told OP to bring her plates back because she needed it for a niece’s cake.
OP and her significant other thought her colleague was out of bounds to talk to her that way.
OP thought that since it was her party, she deserved the leftovers if she wanted them. Her SO advised OP to apologize, but OP didn’t think she did anything wrong.
OP’s entitlement is astounding, even by Reddit standards.
Was that fact supposed to change our minds about your attitude?
If you can guess OP’s age, you will win a plate of brownies. Plate not included.
Wisdom doesn’t always come with age.
OP should also have asked if she could take SOME, not all, of the leftovers to share with her SO.
OP has a lot of unreasonable expectations from her colleagues who she now thinks are her employees.
No. Common courtesy was to acknowledge your proposal and congratulate you, which they did. If OP really felt like celebrating, she should have brought the cake to share with everyone.
I don’t like how OP refers to her colleagues as her employees. She could be their supervisor, still doesn’t make her their employer.
OP is going to cost their company a lot of good people if she doesn’t acknowledge the error of her ways.
How did it feel to be at a party you forced your co-workers to plan for you?
Her colleagues had nothing to do with her engagement anyway. If she had close friends from work who remembered her engagement, they would have offered to take her out for drinks after hours.
OP has a distorted view of how workplaces should be. Based on her update, I don’t believe she was receptive to the judgment and advice given to her by the community.
