“She claims that, by keeping our name, we are disrespecting the memory of her baby.”
Naming a child is a deeply personal decision for any parent, but sometimes, it can lead to unexpected and painful conflicts. In this story, a pregnant woman and her husband decided to name their unborn daughter Adelaide, a name the mother had loved since childhood.
However, this choice unintentionally caused deep distress for one of her closest friends.
Two years prior, the friend had tragically lost her baby to a stillbirth. She had kept her baby’s name, Adelaide, a secret, making the announcement by the pregnant couple particularly painful.
When the friend discovered their chosen name, she began to distance herself and eventually asked them to reconsider. Despite understanding her trauma, the couple chose to keep the name, leading to a tearful confrontation where the friend revealed the significance of the name.
The friend felt that using the name Adelaide disrespected the memory of her stillborn child and would serve as a constant reminder of her loss. The pregnant woman, while sympathetic to her friend’s grief, felt it was her right to name her child as she wished without being weighed down by someone else’s past trauma.
This situation highlights the complex emotions surrounding grief and the importance of sensitivity and communication when personal choices impact others. While the mother-to-be believed in her right to choose her child’s name, her friend’s pain underscores the need for compassion and understanding in such delicate matters.
Just take a look at this…
OP’s expecting a girl, and they joyfully announced her name: Adelaide, a childhood dream fulfilled.
Upon naming their baby Adelaide, a friend (27F) grew distant. Despite sensitivity during the pregnancy, her discomfort persisted.
Two years ago, she lost her baby girl to stillbirth, yet remained kind and empathetic towards her friend until that day.
She pushed for a name change, but they held their ground.
Their friend tearfully revealed that Adelaide was the name she had chosen for her stillborn baby.
She kept the baby’s name secret until birth, then decided to keep it private after the stillbirth.
She accuses them of disrespect, but they believe they have the right to name their child without being burdened by someone else’s trauma.
Scroll down to see what people had to say…
Secret’s out: both the baby’s and the name’s! But hey, better late than never, right?
No crystal ball for names, just for congratulations!
NTA for name choice and secrecy, but watch out for the trauma talk.
Time for a name compromise boot camp! Friends don’t let friends agonize alone over baby names.
Lesson learned: Keep baby names as secret as Area 51 plans. Lose a friend or gain a lesson?
How about using Adelaide as her middle name? A nod to the past without crowning her a royal!
NAH for the original choice, but now they’re in the name game. What matters more: the name or the friendship flame?
Choose wisely, or prepare to be solo in the baby name rodeo!
Decisions, decisions… Name change or friendship exchange?
NTA, but that name might come with too much drama for the baby book.
No AHs, just a name change waiting to happen.
It’s a battle of names, not a game of thrones. Maybe skip ‘Addy’ for a smoother ride.
NAH, but tread carefully—naming rights versus friendship fights.
It’s not a baby, it’s a name. Time for her to name her feelings something new—like ‘therapy’.
Navigating the minefield of baby names and broken hearts is no easy task. Maybe the real lesson here is to pick names that don’t come with emotional baggage. After all, in the world of names, sometimes it’s best to avoid those with reserved parking!
Comment down your thoughts, or share this article for all your family and friends to see!
